The ever-elusive quest for happiness. Western society programs us to yearn for external stuff to be happy. When we have approval from others, that new computer game, the bigger house,… then we’ll be happy. Or so we think.
I grew up in a generation where moms actually did say, “Eat your broccoli, there are kids starving in Biafra”. Guilt management of children and eating their vegetables aside, they had a point. In a backhanded, control freak sort of way, they were also trying to teach us about gratitude.
If traveling the world (particularly Asia and South America) has shown me anything, it is that poverty exists on a scale that I did not previously comprehend as an adult, let alone at age 7. There are multitudes in the world who yearn for the simple basics: Food, potable water, adequate shelter.
Always striving for “bigger, better, faster” on which to build our house of happiness, in fact dooms us to eternal unhappiness. We build on shifting sand. When we reach a solid place of feeling internal wholeness and peace without any of the add-ons (“Would you like to upgrade your fast food today?”), then true, sustainable happiness is possible.
Happiness is a state of mind, and a choice, at any given moment. It’s not a destination.
The road to happiness. How do YOU define it?
As with love, our happiness expands when we remove the conditions we attach to it. “I’ll be happy when…” Happiness is a decision to see life in a certain way, with the realization that every moment of it is a gift.
Are you living your true heart’s desire? We are encouraged and conditioned in life to make logical decisions for our happiness. We are strongly influenced in the decision-making by people close to us. The problem is, they likely have also been programmed by society to believe happiness is a certain thing or way of being.
Listen to your heart, and then temper what it says with your logic and the wisdom you have already accumulated. If what your heart says still feels right, then follow it. Too many people only figure this out much later in life, and some never do at all.
Give yourself the gift of your heart’s desire as young as you are able. Live the life that will make you happy, not the one your peers or parents or society deems to be acceptable. It’s YOUR life. Make it a happy one!
Happy
True, real, enduring,
happiness is being at
peace with who you are.
Parts of this post are excerpts from Soul Journey: The Poetry of Life, and Becoming Bigger: In a world that wants to keep you small. They are free. Find my free ebooks here.
I love the pure sweetness of spring. Everything starts over again. Fresh. The Spring Solstice has always felt like the real New Year to me.

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