When life feels too overwhelming to deal with, “little by little” is an excellent methodology that keeps us moving forward. Also known in motivational circles as “chunking it down”, it’s a method of taking anything that feels insurmountable and down-sizing it to bite-size pieces.
Write down on paper whatever feels too daunting, then divide it into small pieces that feel manageable. Organize the pieces into a plan consisting of steps and stages, then immediately dig in and begin. Accomplishing that crucial first small step gives us enthusiasm and motivation to move on to the next one, then the next, and on it goes until that overwhelming monster is vanquished.
Lately I notice from social media comments that the world’s turmoil is immobilizing people from accomplishing even the simplest of daily tasks. “Little by little” is a way to overcome inertia and reclaim power over our lives.
This sense of empowerment gives us peace of mind, plus the confidence to envision and implement what we want for the future. We can’t let the problems of the world beat us. And, we won’t!
What could I ever say about hate and love that would rival the words of one of the greatest visionaries for humanity, Martin Luther King Jr.?
His words encompassed a much broader spectrum than the issue of racism. They spoke to the very essence of who we are as individuals. They inspired us to improve our own character and integrity, so that we can then each contribute to a better humanity. He raised the bar. He dared us all to be better people.
We each grapple with the dark night of our own soul. Hate has the potential to rear its ugly head in various situations, small to big. Each of us holds the key to overcome the world’s hate. It is not in “someone else’s hands”. Unless we overcome our own darkness, the world will not be survive its darkness.
Inspirational Martin Luther King Jr. quotes:
“Returning hate for hate multiplies hate, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars. Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”
“Let no man pull you so low as to hate him.”
“I have decided to stick to love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.“
“There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies.”
“Hatred paralyzes life; love releases it. Hatred confuses life; love harmonizes it. Hatred darkens life; love illuminates it.”
“Hate destroys the hater…”
“I am convinced that love is the most durable power in the world. It is not an expression of impractical idealism, but of practical realism. Far from being the pious injunction of a Utopian dreamer, love is an absolute necessity for the survival of our civilization. To return hate for hate does nothing but intensify the existence of evil in the universe. Someone must have sense enough and morality enough to cut off the chain of hate and evil, and this can only be done through love.”
Our words and stories are powerful. We must be careful, because we have the ability to create a positive or negative reality with them.
Focusing on negative narrative keeps everyone’s minds confirming and expanding that reality. Have you noticed? Words used in the current COVID narrative too often leave us feeling weak, reliant, and disempowered. But, we’re not. This is just the story that has been thrust upon us, in this moment. We did not create it, but we are responsible if we choose to perpetuate it. We have the power to overcome this negativity with selective word and thought replacement.
Let’s Program Ourselves for the Positive
Start to create a positive narrative now, by actively using expansive and encouraging language. These words aren’t new; we all have them in our vocabularies. We’ve just been using them much less lately. How is this for a short list, just as a start?
Wellness Love Joy Life Birth Creation Beginnings Beauty Adventure Playing Cooperation Abundance Preparedness Self-reliance Independence Celebration
When we use positive words, we raise our vibration and increase our power, as well as that of people around us. Positivity in our minds and hearts does affect the resiliency of our bodies. It keeps us in a healthier state holistically. We are then in a place of taking responsibility for our overall health, and, envisioning and creating a better future.
Taking responsibility for our words sounds simple, but it is not necessarily easy. It takes some practice and discipline, particularly when others around us try to engage us in the negative narrative. However, this is a fundamental way to exercise our own personal power to create positive change. We’ve got this!
2020 has been a year of unimaginable change. Overnight our global reality was turned on its ear. Think of it, no one on this planet has been untouched by the changes this year. And as we all know, much of it has not been pretty.
Facing a new year is daunting when we feel SO let down by the year 2020. How many will ring in 2021 with joyous expectation, with a feeling that they are empowered to take on fresh challenges and build something new? The narrative in the news is constantly one of illness, fear, and disempowerment. We are being told we are weak. No, we are not! We are only we weak if we believe it to be so.
2020 presented us with scenarios that greatly challenge our mental comfort level. Question is, in 2021 will we rise to the occasion and proactively deal with the challenges that have been thrust upon us? Or, will we complacently sit back and wait for change to “happen to us”?
There is a New Year’s cartoon circulating right now. Picture a crowd of people in a hallway, peering nervously around the corner and down the next hall at a door signed 2021. The door is slightly ajar, and the leader is prodding the door open with a long pole to see what’s behind it before anyone proceeds.
No, no, no! Have we allowed 2020 to crush our spirits so badly that we hang back in fear? There is nothing behind that mysterious door that can defeat us, unless we let it be so. Let us walk through the door courageously, confidently, resolutely. With this attitude, we can create the change we want in the world and live our lives accordingly. Let us make a pledge to ourselves for 2021, to live life consciously, creatively, and intentionally towards that goal.
“Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all.” ~ Helen Keller
“When we least expect it, life sets us a challenge to test our courage and willingness to change; at such a moment, there is no point in pretending that nothing has happened or in saying that we are not yet ready. The challenge will not wait. Life does not look back. A week is more than enough time for us to decide whether or not to accept our destiny.” ~ Paulo Coelho
“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.” ~ Martin Luther King Jr.
“Time is the school in which we learn, Time is the fire in which we burn.” are the profound last lines of the poem, Calmly We Walk through This April’s Day, by Delmore Schwartz. It’s a beautiful philosophical contemplation of the passage of time, with a particularly great wrap-up last stanza.
The seconds, minutes, hours tick away relentlessly. Our lives are busy, and inundated with many distractions and responsibilities. Lately I’m looking at my age and thinking, “Wow! It’s going faster than I ever imagined at age 18.”
Realistically, we don’t have time to sit around and endlessly ponder about the value of time and our lives. But, it’s useful to carve out a little time (from time to time) for such introspection. Because your life IS precious, and the clock IS ticking. Ask yourself in this moment, are you spending it the way you would really like to?
The new year 2021 will soon be upon us. In retrospect, too many precious moments fell through the cracks in the turmoil of 2020, never to be lived. It is a good time now to think about how we will spend 2021. Because indeed, these are our lives, and it is OUR time.
It is crucially important (now more than ever) to have vision and intention for our lives. Otherwise, we will just end up with someone else’s idea of how life should be.